So you spent all of this time trying to use the law of attraction and you keep getting mixed results.

It’s all right. Once you make these tiny changes, manifestation in your image is inevitable.

The purpose of this article is to show you how you can better attract the life that you want.

By attract, I mean just that. You don’t have to go out and make things happen. Instead, you can sit back and let it all come to you.

It’s fair that you might not even want it. No matter what you want, you can have it and you can have it now.

So let’s do this!

What Is the Law of Attraction?

The law of attraction states that you are the cause of everything that happens in your life. You attract all things by use of your focus.

In other words, by changing your focus or unifying it, you can manifest and experience any reality right now.

Your mind acts as a receiving station that attracts the physical counterpart of your dominating thoughts.

So everything in your life (the place you stay, your clothes, your relationships, your phone, your “problems”, your dislikes) are all things you’ve wanted and/or may even feel you deserve.

Just as your dominating thoughts change, so does your reality.

Not only are you a figure in your own dream, but you are also the dreamer of the dream.

It’s all in your control.

Let’s learn how “dream” properly while sidestepping the common mistakes.

1. Focusing on materials items

It’s no way around it. Nice things are nice things.

You can’t always explain why you like something; you just know that you do.

Those things seem to make you happy. They can include a pretty face, a number in your bank account, a fresh pair of shoes, and/or a new JClay album. *hint hint*

The possibilities are endless.

Although possibilities are endless, material things have an end.

Herein lies the first contradiction.

You want more of what is finite choosing that over what is infinite.

By doing so you bring this into every aspect of your life. As the saying goes, you want what you can’t have.

You’ve set yourself an impossible mission being a slave of sorts to what will always fade.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #1

A better way is to focus instead on what is infinite and abundant. For instance, your being.

You are a human being and in this moment, you can be whatever you choose.

If you want to be happy, you can be happy. If you want to be angry, you can be that instead. It all depends on your choice.

By choosing something finite and outside of yourself to affect your being, you are going against the nature of what you are.

Besides, you only want material things because you believe it will make you happy. But if you get them, your happiness only remains as long as the item is interesting to you, which could be as little as an hour.

By choosing to be happy first and keeping your focus on that, you will attract all the material things naturally that will always add to your happiness. So when, for example, a favorite piece of clothing gets worn out, you’ll have an abundance of other favorite pieces of clothing.

2. Living in time

Both the past and the future seem to hold the key to everything you want.

The past shows ideas of “better” days that you would like to re-live today. The future shows ideas of “better” days that you would like to live someday.

In both cases, neither of these will ever come. Everything that has happened to you happened right now.

You’ve never been able to visit the past or the future. Yet in your mind, you visit there constantly.

By focusing on what isn’t here or never will be here, you are attracting more emptiness right now.

What is not here does not exist. To focus on the lack of something is to attract more lack into your life.

Whatever you focus on, you experience. And you experience whatever you focus on.

So how can you really ever be without what you focus on?

You can’t. You’ve again set yourself on an impossible task by wanting more of what can never be.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #2

Instead of focusing on lack, place your focus and attention on what exists right now.

There are many opportunities and chances for you to get exactly what you really want right here and right now. You simply cannot see them because you are looking away.

Ground yourself in this moment. Be present. Use meditation or music to help.

When you focus on what is, you will see everything that you’ve ever attracted waiting for you.

3. Believing in positive and negative

One of the big things with the law of attraction is that if you focus on positive thoughts, you will attract positive things.

But what exactly is a positive thought?

A positive thought is said to be a thought that focuses only on what is good.

The problem with that is that to define something as positive or good, you give birth to its opposite, negative and bad.

Else there would be no need to even define or judge the thing. By judging it as good, you are declaring that there is bad in this world so your judgment of what is good is needed.

It’s like asking someone if they know who you are? If you have to ask, they obviously don’t know.

Similarly, if you have to declare something as good, you obviously don’t believe it wholly yet. If you did, there would be no need to mention it, except only when asked.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #3

Instead of giving your judgment to things and situations, don’t.

It may feel difficult at first, but your judgment is never needed. A thing will be what it is without you declaring it as such.

In addition, forgive your past judgments. You may have judged incorrectly.

Your wisdom cannot exceed your current level of understanding.

Since you seem to be wiser now, it may be wise to reassess your somewhat unwise judgments.

Let them all go.

4. Having no purpose

Nothing can outlive its purpose.

When you have no further use for a thing, you throw, hide, or give it away.

The same is true for what you would like to attract.

If you have no purpose for attracting it, it will always seem to flee from your grasp.

That which you chase will always run away.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #4

To remedy this, always set your purpose for whatever it is you want.

If you want money, know why you want money and be ready to use it purposefully.

Doing things purposefully does not mean you have to have a divine reason for doing something. It just means you are taking your rightful place in the cause/effect spectrum.

As you know, all things are cause and effect. Your thoughts are the cause of all that you seem to experience.

Yet you sometimes let effects be your cause. This is backward.

Being purposeful allows you to recognize that you are the cause.

5. Your Wants Are Contradictory

This was touched on briefly above with setting impossible missions or tasks.

Contradictory wants are when you want one thing, but you also want the opposite.

For example, you want to eat what you consider healthy, but you also want to eat what you consider as not healthy.

Another example is you may want to be loved, but you don’t love yourself. Or to state it another way, you want others to love you unconditionally, but you don’t love others without conditions.

If you are truly willing to look, you can find these contradictions everywhere.

As far as the law of attraction is concerned, when your wants are contradictory, values get priority.

The law of attraction is not so much “like attracts like”, but “values attract values”.

When you value drama more than you do peace, even if you say hundreds of peaceful affirmations a day, you’ll still attract drama.

How do you know what you value?

First, listen to what you share with others. When you’re talking to your best friend, take notice of all the things you want to tell him or her.

You can only share what you have to share, and what you share, you feel you are.

If you share love always, then you’re a loving person.

But if you share love sometimes and hateful comments other times, then you’re both loving and hateful, which means nothing, lol, because these both cancel each other out.

So pick a side. Go full force on your values.

Another way to know exactly what you value is to pay attention to how you speak when you speak of things.

For instance, if you speak in a bland manner about your job, but excitingly when speaking about what happened on your favorite television show, then you value that television show, but not your job so much.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #5

Get a buddy to point out your mistakes.

We all enjoy pointing out mistakes from time to time, but this time is special. You are giving your friend full permission to correct you every time.

Tell your buddy that any time you do or say something contradictory, they get to correct you immediately.

After a few times, you’ll be more aware and able to notice these contradictions before you share them.

Sometime after, you’ll be fully in alignment with all of your thoughts.

6. Your Actions Are Contradictory

This mistake is very similar to the above, but it deserves its own section.

It’s true that your actions follow your wants in the same way that an effect follows its cause.

As was also stated earlier, you may have the habit of letting an effect be your cause.

In this way, you should also correct your actions because they can be based on a purposeless cause.

The purposeless cause is beautifully reflected within the Five Monkeys Experiment. For those unfamiliar, watch this minute and a half video that explains it beautifully.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #5

To not have contradictory actions, self-awareness is still a priority here. Pay attention to your thoughts, words, and actions.

Question your beliefs and know why you do what you do.

Use a law-of-attraction journal if you have to.

If you don’t understand why ask for help? Many are willing to give great advice for free.

When you find yourself acting in a manner that’s contradictory to what you want, stop yourself immediately. There is no benefit to continuing in this manner.

During a later time of mindful reflection, decide what would have been a better course of action.

Then welcome all similar circumstances as an opportunity to show you are aligned with what you want to attract.

7. Not fully understanding vibrational match

This common mistake is a big one!

It may even want to make you exit this article immediately and never read another word I write. But stick with me because knowing this will change EVERYTHING!

A victim and his or her oppressor are a vibrational match. They attract each other.

Woah!

Let me explain how this works within the law of attraction with the following example.

When you believe that there are “bad” people in the world and that they can take something from you, you begin to move accordingly. You take certain precautions on how you go about your day.

But since you are the cause of all things in your life, in order for your movements to make sense, you must see examples of these “bad” people.

So if anyone matches this description, they are brought into your awareness.

Sometimes this can be from afar and other times it can be up close & personal.

It doesn’t end there. Once you’ve crossed paths with an individual (set by the intentions you’ve set through your beliefs), you share this with as many people as possible.

You become an advocate for these “bad” people you’ve attracted thus attracting more. You may even become an expert on them.

In other cases, you may begin to hide away from the world fearing your own imagined creation.

As the saying goes, opposites attract. But now you understand how they aren’t opposites at all.

They serve as witnesses to one another.

Law of Attraction: Corrective Action #7

First, focus on what you are, not what you aren’t.

For example, if you aren’t “bad” then don’t focus on “bad” people.

You’ve already unknowingly used the law of attraction to attract those that are just as you are.

Your friends, family, and workmates may share similar values.

Once your values change, so will your environment and the people in it.

There is never a need to fear another. In reality, you aren’t fearing them. You are only fearing your imagined idea of them.

The Law of Attraction Recap

Smile. You now know exactly what to do to manifest what you think will add to your joy.

To make this complete, I want to point out a simple way to attract the greatest life possible, not just what you think will add to your happiness.

Being.

When you are … or when you are in a state of being, you are saying that you fully trust God and/or the universe.

You are affirming that you have no needs and are complete.

Without you creating the need for you to need anything, you will never be without anything.

If you had the keys to the universe, would you trust them to someone always searching for something more or someone that is perfectly content no matter what?

Be.

All of the ACTION STEPS

1. Focus on what is abundant.
2. Live in the present moment always.
3. Don’t judge anything and forgive your past judgments.
4. Do everything purposefully.
5. Be consistent with what you want.
6. Ensure your actions are in line with your desires.
7. Understand that to judge anything is to create circumstances where it will manifest in your life.
8. BONUS – Be.

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The God and evil question is one of those questions that’s been asked repeatedly by both believers of God and atheists. This is also one of the first major questions I remember having as a child.

Of course, I never received a straight answer that made sense.

It wouldn’t be until recently that I am able to answer this question fully and correctly so that many can benefit from this knowledge.

The answer is quite simple, but in a mind split by conflicting thoughts, it can seem difficult to isolate only what is true.

This article aims to dispel all illusions surrounding this topic so that the truth can be clearly seen.

By the end of this article, you’ll know exactly why evil seems to exist and what you have the power to do about it.

Common beliefs

There is a common belief that God created the world including angels and humans. It is also a belief that one of the angels defied God, fell from heaven, and is the father of evil.

This angel has been called many things such as the devil, Satan, and Lucifer. What’s funny is that “Lucifer” means bringer of light, but that’s another topic.

Although religious texts do not serve as concrete proof, accounts of God creating the world and mankind are outlined in many of those texts throughout numerous cultures.

However, the details surrounding angel creation and furthermore an angel falling from heaven are not found in these texts. It seems to be more speculation than fact.

Well, what is evil?

Before we dive fully into why evil exists, let’s first come to a consensus of what evil is said to be.

I’m going to breakdown the dictionary’s definition to get the most basic explanation similar to what I did with happiness in the article How To Be Happy All the Time.

Google’s dictionary defines evil as profoundly immoral and wicked.

• profoundly immoral and wicked
• (profoundly not conforming to accepted standards of morality) and (extremely unpleasant and intending to or being capable of harming someone or something)
• (using extreme force to not act in accordance with a wish or command concerning the accepted distinction between right & wrong or good & bad behavior) and (greatly causing discomfort, unhappiness, or disgust; disagreeable or physically hurting another)

It sounds like evil is one of two things:

1. Greatly going against what somebody or group feels is right
2. Causing somebody extreme physical pain or death.

Agreed?

Cool, let’s proceed.

How are right and wrong determined?

Since we know that evil is partly defined as going against what’s right, the next logical question is what exactly is right?

Just to get the definitions out of the way, right is defined as:

• morally good, justified, or acceptable
• true or correct as a fact

Most of these definitions lead to more questions, not answers. For example, justified or acceptable by whom? And shouldn’t all facts be true?

One thing I know about truth is that what is true is always true no matter what. It is also true for all without exception. If truth was not all-encompassing, then it would not be truth.

There’s a fact that 1 in 5 adults in America experiences a mental illness, but this isn’t true always depending on which 5 people you ask. It fails the truth test.

For the purpose of truly understanding the answer to the God and evil question, let’s disregard facts and focus only on truth for the remainder of this article.

This means that what’s right should be what’s true.

Yet who among us would be considered truthful enough to justify or accept someone else’s behavior?

Since the majority of beliefs are based on fact and not truth, no person can accurately judge another. Herein lies the barrier that seems to obstruct the truth from vision.

Assuming God is good, then God would be the only One to accurately say what is real and true.

God and truth

If God determines what’s good, then God must represent truth. This mean God exists always, never changes, and extends to all without exception just like truth.

Since it’s only possible to create of yourself, then what God created must follow these same rules. The rules are that God’s creations exist forever and are perfectly good.

You may be thinking, “Well I change, am I not real?” Hmmm.

Your thoughts and emotions do change. Even your body changes. However, there is one constant, you.

If you were your thoughts, you would have died with the ones you no longer think. The same with your emotions and your body. You would have died with the billions of cells that have died.

Since you have always existed unaffected by these things, you must be truth and these “things” must be false.

You have confused your identity with that which never was and so you act accordingly.

You try to create that which is not of God and so your creations seem to fade with time.

Death

Some of you may now be asking the question that, if God creates what is permanent and the body clearly isn’t, then who created the body?

We’ll come back to that. First, let’s discuss death.

What do we already believe about death?

We believe:

• it comes to everybody (every “body”)
• it cannot exist without life

This seems logical. If there is death, something must be living in order to die.

Is the opposite true; can life come from death?

It doesn’t seem so. Death cannot exist without life.

Does this mean death can exist within life?

For this to be true then you would live, you would die completely, and then you would continue living. That goes completely against what death is.

I’m sure you’ve heard many stories of people being brought back to life. They all had one thing in common. They still experienced something while they were supposedly dead.

If you’re experiencing something, you can’t be dead, right?

So if death cannot exist without life, and it also cannot exist within life, then the truth about death is that it cannot really exist.

Is your brain tingling yet? Good.

The body

I said earlier that you can only create of yourself. For example, apple trees make apple trees. Horses make horses. People make people, except people seem to make a lot more.

People make music. They make ideas come to life. They make planes, structures, love, etc.

The above is proof that people must be more than just bodies.

So if God creates of Himself, this means that God creates gods. And what makes God God is that God is unlimited in His Creations.

If being in a body means you are limited by what you can do, then either the body is misperceived, or God did not create any “body”.

What’s even more interesting about this is that evilness is defined in regards to the body.

Since it’s been confirmed that you are not a body, then where’s the threat of death or wrongdoing? Also, if there is no death, where’s the threat at all?

There is none. That means God really is good.

To put this another way, what’s happening is similar to you confusing your identity with a shirt. You immediately feel in danger because a shirt could be ripped, worn out, cut, burned, stolen, etc. So you cover it up with another shirt to “protect” it.

It’s only after the shirt seems to wither away that you realize, “I ain’t no shirt!” And you regain consciousness. Yet if you still value shirts, your focus changes from consciousness back to illusion, and the cycle repeats.

Read the parable of The Painting. It’s much better than this shirt example.

The true maker of evil

Once again, you can only create of yourself. So to even perceive evil is to perceive being evil.

I must say this again.

You can only create of yourself. So to even perceive evil is to perceive being evil.

Thus the evil you see is of you. You value evil acts because it bears witness to the false belief that you are a body.

Evil becomes your twisted idea of salvation. It attempts to hold this illusion of bodies and death in place.

You have created something so unbelievable that you literally fight for the “right” to believe it. But to fight for a right is an oxymoron. What’s right (or rather what’s true) does not need soldiers for it to remain true. Only the lies (or rather illusions) need constant attention.

The simple truth

Evil does not exist. It is a false belief that you carry with you from moment to moment.

You attempt to speak it into existence each time you bear witness to so-called evilness. You are its preacher and sustainer.

In addition, you place evil above God because you think it’s something to be feared or a mistake that God made.

Fortunately, God is Love and that which is love sees no evil. It sees only love.

Will you stop making evil and make love?

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Is your family toxic? How can you be sure?

First off, I commend you for even clicking on this article. There are many that would encourage you to remove yourself from the presence of toxic people immediately. You have shown that you want to try a different approach. Or maybe you are in a situation where you can’t get away so easily. Either way, you made the right choice.

By the end of this article, you’ll know how to identify toxic people, how to be free of them forever, and how to always be in a loving environment. Therefore, I encourage you to read to the end.

“If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.” -Ram Dass

What Makes a Person Toxic?

Before we dive into what you should do around toxic people, let’s get on the same page about what a toxic person really is.

A 2016 article on Psychology Today listed the 8 things that most toxic people in your life have in common. These 8 things are:

• They are not caring, supportive, or interested in what’s important to you.
• They take no responsibility for their own feelings.
• They make you prove yourself to them.
• They make you defend yourself.
• Toxic people are manipulative.
• They are inconsistent.
• They don’t apologize.
• They are judgmental.

To sum it up, a toxic person is an energy vampire. They feed off your “life force” so that they can build themselves up.

Let’s break down 3 of these because all 8 are basically saying the same things in a different way, which is, “I matter more than you.”

1. They are not caring, supportive, or interested in what’s important to you.

Because you can only see through the eyes of your beliefs, you want what’s important to you to be also important to everyone. As a result, you understand that everyone wants that as well for themselves.

Or do you?

Let’s say you’re in a situation where a family member wants a goal for you that is in direct opposition to the goal you want for yourself. This can result in conflict, especially since you don’t understand why they won’t just support you. It is of course, your life.

At the same time, you are not supporting them in the way they want to support you. They feel that they are being selfless because they are “helping” you. Henceforward, you both exhibit toxic behavior toward one another by not being supportive in the way the other wants.

Does that make you a toxic person or just a person with toxic behavior? Let’s come back to this question later.

2. They take no responsibility for their own feelings.

Everyone has met that person who blames everyone else for their troubles. They say things like, “You never support me. You make me so angry. This is all your fault…”

All the while, they never look at themselves.

It can seem very difficult to be around such people because they only think of themselves and never even think to support you. Instead, they just make you angry. It’s their fault that you even get angry at all.

Wait a minute…it seems like you are doing to them what you are accusing them of doing to you.

So does that make you a toxic person or just a person reacting to toxic behavior in a toxic way? You don’t have to answer this right now either.

3. They make you prove yourself to them.

As described above, toxic people want you to prove that you love them by doing something you may not want to do. They want you to support them in some way or even do them a favor. When you don’t, they complain about it saying you don’t care about them. They may even list examples of when they helped you.

Observe what feelings surface in response to the following questions.

• Have your family and friends proved themselves to you yet?
• Do they even have to?
• How do you feel when you ask them for a favor and they don’t come through?
• Do you feel similar to what was described above of the toxic person?

If you feel similar to that of a toxic person, does that make you a toxic person?

The Pattern of Toxicity

You’re starting to see a pattern. A person is not really toxic, they just exhibit toxic behavior from time to time. They are inconsistent in that way, which is one of the listed traits.

It’s also starting to look like you are the toxic person you claim another to be. This is because there is no separation between what you feel and what you experience.

Whenever a person experiences an unwanted feeling, he thinks that separating it from himself will lead to him feeling better. To try and separate it, he projects this behavior onto another thus creating his own enemy in a sense.

This is a major breakthrough because you can begin to see how you’ve also done this. Once you are aware, you can make the necessary changes.

What To Remember About Energy Vampirism

If someone can take your energy, this means that someone can also give you energy. Similarly, if someone can be toxic, this means someone can be a cure.

It is as easy to focus on the energy drainers as it is to focus on the energy givers. Since what you focus on expands, it’s better to focus on the energy givers instead.

Instead of just focusing on the energy givers, what if you could become an energy giver?

A lot of people believe that to give is to lose, but in reality, to give is to receive.

This is why when you project to separate, you still experience what you’re projecting.

You can try this experiment right now.

Give a genuine compliment to someone. Observe their reaction and yours. You would observe how happy they get and how much more happy it makes you.

Now, criticize someone harshly. Ok, you don’t have to do this one. That bad feeling that you felt in your heart shows that you don’t really want to give that because you know that you’ll receive it. And in some ways, just by thinking it, you already have.

Being A Energy Giver, Being the Cure

Check out this shift in perspective.

A toxic person wants to feel better by either taking your energy or making you feel smaller.

On the flip side, an energy giver wants you to feel better by either giving you energy or making you feel better.

The same result is applied, but everybody feels better about it. By being an energy giver, you also receive the energy you gave but in greater amounts. That’s all a “toxic” person wants.

The next time a “toxic” person comes your way, willingly give them that love that they are really asking for. You will have cured them of their toxicity making your environment toxic-free and peaceful.

The Role Your Family & Friends Play In Your Life

In truth, the only toxic person you’ve ever perceived is yourself. Now that you know how not to be toxic, you won’t perceive it in others.

Because your loved ones are so close to you, they can bring up feelings that you would not care to have around others.

What’s special about this is they are reflecting your innermost thoughts. They are showing you what you need to overcome to remain happy. How can a person such as that ever be toxic? They are your savior.

Will you try to see the world another way? Let me know in the comments.

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Fight fight fight are words that commonly command the attention of the masses. Yet no fight is ever winnable.

I can tell just how you’re looking at this article that this is a touchy subject. As a result, you’re probably ready to verbally fight me because you believe I’m threatening your right to fight.

Fear not, this is one encounter that we’ll both end up winning.

All throughout our history books, our television shows, and within our family, there are long records of fighting.

Despite this, what do you actually win after a fight? How do you feel moving forward and encountering the one(s) you’ve fought with? What’s actually changed?

In this article, all of these questions and more will be answered. You will learn more about yourself and your motives for fighting than you have from engaging in any fight.

Are you ready to let go of the idea of fighting?

What You’re Really Fighting For (It’s Purpose)

There’s a belief that you must fight for what is right.

This leads to important questions like what exactly is right and why does it need you to fight for it? Wouldn’t it’s rightness be enough to stand on?

For instance, the truth doesn’t need anyone to validate it for it to remain true. What is true will always be true. On the other hand, a lie, it’s constantly looking for witnesses to uphold its claims. A lie will fight to stay alive.

At its core, fighting is an effect of fear. Fear is an illusion. It’s caused by trying to give away what you do not want. You’ve judged against a part of yourself, which can show up as guilt, shame, or feelings of inadequacy. As a result of only being able to give what you have, you give these feelings to others thinking that you can gain freedom from such feelings.

As you continue to give away these feelings, you strengthen your belief in them. Your ability to share is what gives power to what you experience.

For instance, you share:

• what you want to keep alive
• what has your attention
• your inner being
• what excites you

If you want to know what you cherish most in life, pay attention to what you’re sharing with others.

Since illusions cannot birth reality, you fight to maintain these illusions.

Truth/reality is the only thing that seems to contradict illusion. But since the truth has no fear of itself and is peaceful, you are fighting against peace itself. More specifically, you are fighting against your own peace.

Your Deeply Held Beliefs That Leads To Any Fight

As I said above, fighting stems from fear. This fear is based on the belief that you can be threatened in some way.

You share this vulnerability with others and it’s made stronger within yourself.

The irony is that you believe in your weakness, but you seek to prove to yourself that you are not weak.

This belief is but a manifestation of a deeper one. You believe that God or even the universe is a cruel, unfair Creator to create what can be so easily destroyed.

As a result, you believe yourself to be better than God because why else would you find fault with His creations. You seek to force your will upon others because you believe so strongly in your ability to be right while also knowing that you don’t know everything. This is contradictory and can be seen as narcissistic. Yet you see others as narcissistic, ignorant, threats to your ideas of “rightness”, evil monsters, etc.

So more than anything you are fighting against yourself because those you choose to fight embody the same beliefs you do, which are inconsistent.

Be sure to read: Why You Keep Losing To The Enemy.

After every fight, there’s always some sense of guilt. Why wouldn’t there be, you’ve just attacked yourself.

What About When Being Attacked?

These same inconsistencies that apply when fighting others are the same ones that attract situations where you feel you are being attacked.

To believe that you can attack is to believe that you can be attacked. And since you’ve proven this by attacking yourself for any number of fears, you confuse it and believe others are attacking you as well.

Even though pain is also an illusion, you use it as a witness to your being attack and so you feel more pain.

Let’s restate the previous sentence in its simple truth form.

Even though non-reality is also non-reality, you use non-reality as a witness to your non-reality and so you feel more non-reality.

Non-reality is synonymous with fantasy. How often have you fantasized about a situation where you were wronged by another, you then got “revenge” on that other, and you came out as the hero?

Better yet, how often have you fantasized about a situation where you were wronged by another and you wanted people to feel sorry for you because of it?

And what do you get for this? A combination of any of these illusions:

• a strengthened belief in death instead of what you are
• feeling sorry for yourself
• seeing others as threats
• feeling fearful
• depression

As the saying goes … play stupid games, when stupid prizes.

Fighting For Sport

If you’ll fight for anything, you’ll fight for everything.

The goal of fighting is the same no matter the situation. That goal is to put yourself above another in some form.

The Reality of It All

When you fight, you are denying the reality of your oneness with all. You are accepting a reality where you are separate from everyone and so you fight to maintain this separateness.

Feeling small, you seek to expand your being by taking people and objects as possessions. Claim is laid upon them by using the term “my”. “This is my house, my car, my favorite chair, etc.” The consequence of taking on so many possessions is a feeling of fatigue or overextension.

When people are used as possessions, these are known as special relationships. “My wife, my boyfriend, my kid, my best friend, etc.”

You confuse yourself with this illusionary reality and as a result, your being is limited only to those special relationships and possessions. So you fear losing them because you fear losing yourself. You fight more, lay claim to more possessions, and deepen the burden these possessions places on you to maintain them. You are now prisoner to your own “possessions”.

Instead of living, you start dying a little more each day. Well, the self you created starts to die a little more each day because it is robbed of the essence of life. It is stuck in a world that could never be while trying to keep it real.

Now you know what is truly meant when another says, “I’m just keeping it real.”

The cycle repeats and repeats.

So What Do You Do?

1. Stop fighting.

Recognize what fighting really is. It’s a call for love.

If someone is calling for love towards you, show them that love.

Ever tried to fight someone looking at you with pure love? It can’t happen. It’s like trying to fight the happiest baby ever. Whatever darkness that person harbored will instantly flee out of that person in the presence of love.

2. Let go of favoritism.

Treat everyone as the Godly creation that they are. Love all of them with all of your heart.

Treat others how you want to be treated.

3. Love yourself.

When you truly love yourself, you want the best for yourself.

The best for yourself is to be surrounded by the best because what’s best becomes the new norm.
Pour love into your surroundings the same way you would want love poured into you.

For example, let’s say that your best friend is a millionaire. You will get all the benefits of being a millionaire without having to be a millionaire because your friend will want to share his or her experiences with you.

Now imagine if everyone is your best friend. You get the benefits of everyone.

4. Stay reminded.

Your intentions may be good right now, but you may be habitually used to fighting. When things seem to go wrong, your habits will most likely take over.

Until you’ve replaced that habit with a new one, you will need to stay focused on what it is you want.

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